The Quarter Life Crisis: 5 Things I Learned About Life after 25

In one sentence, what have you learned about life in 2015?

2015

What was your biggest accomplishment?

What was your biggest mistake?

What were the top 3 things you learned about yourself?

(These are questions meant for you to meditate on before reading any further)

For me personally, 2015 was one of the toughest, depressing, yet encouraging and phenomenal years of my life. It’s also the year I turned 26 years old, which means I have a quarter century of wisdom (I Hope) under my belt.

In this post I  to share 5 things, I have learned about life after the age of 25. I hope this encourages you to critically evaluate your year with intention and purpose.

BUT, before I get to the post, here is a brief snippet of my 2015 year broken into quarters.


My 2015 in Quarters (In Gifs / Vines / Songs / Memes)

First Quarter (Lost Opportunity) 

Second Quarter (Recreating The Past)

Fyi: This song is 5 Minutes

Third Quarter (They Thought They Retired My Jersey)

Its time

Fourth Quarter (What A Time To Be Alive)

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5 Things I learned About Life After 25

  1. There is no “I” in Progress

My Story: Last January I withdrew from the world completely for 3 months. I even slept in my car for almost 2 months (in the winter),  when I had an apartment I paid rent in. I even stopped looking into  mirror’s for a few month’s because I did not like seeing my face. I felt like I let my family, friends, and  people down because I wasn’t speaking, blogging, or teaching as much as I used to. I also felt that I was lying to the people because I just wrote a book about overcoming failure & following your passion yet I essentially had quit. I was a walking lie, or so I thought.  I put my value completely into what I “did” instead of “who I was”. That is what happens when your life completely revolves around yourself. When you focus on yourself, of course, your going obsess about all your mistakes, flaws and shortcomings. Which is why having “meaningful social contact” is so important. When I say meaningful I am talking about those that are better than you at what you do. If I was around them they would have told me that having a drought is normal, way’s to reach new audience, or just great words because they have experienced the same things.

Translation to Life: Invest in your relationships with other people. Take interesting people out for coffee, go to local event’s sponsored by your city, stay 10 minutes longer at church to fellowship with other people. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to hang around people that are better than you at what you do. (I don’t think you caught that last sentence, so please reread). Once you do you will not only get much-needed criticism but also confirmation that what you’re going thru is normal. I almost died because I had a bad 3 months in my business, that is typical when you starting off.

Question to Ask Yourself: What peers do you hang around with that are better than you at what you do?

  1. Thou Shall Honor Thou Story

Relevant tangent: Have you ever been caught somewhere or doing something by somebody from your past that you didn’t want to see? Like

 

Declined

Or asking to put 2$ in the gas tank then using your debit card to pay for that 2$ when there 5 people in line. Well, this was my day!

My Story: “Wait. You look familiar. Are you Greg Hill? I wanted to buy your book. What are you doing here?”

I have never met this lady in my life. I thought nobody would ever know me at this plasma center. These thought’s played in my mind as I rolled up my sleeve before donating plasma.  I promise God sent every person I ever knew in Durham to the plasma center for the next three months. It was early February 2015, I had no money left and my family and friend’s were honestly supporting my existence. I needed a way to make money, but I had lost all confidence in my abilities, so speaking, teaching, or functioning on a normal job was out of the question for now. Note: There is nothing wrong with donating plasma, but my value system was off. Instead of valuing supporting myself and not being a burden on other’s, my value system revolved around protecting my image. Which is a way bigger issue than donating plasma. There is no shame in donating plasma. What would the experience been like if I would have greeted everyone with smiles, embraced people with small talk, been intentional to make someone’s day every time I went to donate plasma.

Translation to Life: Honor your story. Be who you say you are or better yet be who you believe you are EVERYWHERE you go. You may believe you are an honest, caring, trustworthy individual but have you asked your friends or peer group if you embody those characteristics?

Life is simple when we honor our story and let our values dictate our actions instead of letting our actions dictate our values.  Greg E. Hill –> Click to Tweet

Question to Ask Yourself: What are your values? Are you truly living by them?

  1. In Order to Shine Like a Diamond You Have to Get Cut – Eric Thomas

Diamonds are found deep within the piles of earth core and it takes some thousands of years to form. The creation of a diamond involves a complex mixture of pressure, temperature, and osmosis (got fancy with the last word) to create.

My Story: After graduating from donating plasma in March, I started working at Measurement Incorporated. I still didn’t have my confidence back but I was, at least, talking to select people and I moved back into my apartment. This job was simple, I graded high school and middle school math and writing test. We sat in a little room full of computers and graded papers 8 hours a day. I passed the point of being embarrassed, but I was beginning to lower my expectation’s on what I thought I could do in life. I told myself I would not speak, blog, or run a business ever again. I was set on falling off the map completely and completely fine with that. But after honoring my story, I began to openly share with my co-workers between shift grading papers on what I used to do. They begin to encourage me to write, speak, and generally to believe in myself again. If I wouldn’t have told them who I truly was and shared my journey they may have never encouraged me to reinvent myself once again. All this from a job that requires you to have a college degree to make $10 an hour.

Translation to Life: Take WHATEVER steps necessary to create momentum. You are never too good for an opportunity. Because often times it’s not the opportunity that is going to change your life, but rather the word’s, actions’s or event that happens within that opportunity changes are life. Every opportunity is not going to look good, smell good, or speak to your soul.

  1. Paint your picture no matter the canvas

My Story: While working at my job grading papers I was offered a job at Duke University. To be blunt, the offer was far below my expectation or what I was comfortable taking. Think 20 thousand dollars lower than what I was making when I graduated from college at 21. I applied to hundreds of jobs and with my experience, connections, prayers this was my only job offer to show for it. With no other options, I accepted the position with a plan to leave as soon as I received a higher offer.

I called brother Julian to get feedback on this situation and he ask me this question:

G, What’s your purpose? Duke is one of the best universities in the world. You will work around smart people, be in a academic setting, exposed to things you have never experienced. Don’t leave a job because of money, learn what you can while there and only leave if something comes to YOU that is a exactly what you want.

That advice changed my whole perspective. This job has allowed me to meet people that are changing the world, attend conferences and lectures for free, and help me in areas I could never imagine. I wouldn’t have even been open to the opportunity if I would have trusted myself.

Translation to Life: You might be stuck in a dead end job, relationship, or a point in your life where things are going fine, but you just don’t feel fulfilled. I challenge you to focus at the beginning of the day, on what can make your day great. Then be sure to put your energy that day specifically into that.

Question to ask yourself daily: What is this experience teaching me?

  1. Don’t leave ANY talent left behind

(*clip above only 29 seconds)

I know you remember the Little Giant’s movie. The movie about a group of kids that had no talent or business playing youth football, yet by the end of the season they almost one a championship. What really spoke to me about them is that through their journey they were outmatched in nearly all areas, but utilized everything they had to be champions.

My Story: Today I am back in the same place I was in December 2014. Actually, I am in a far better place then was a year ago this time. I have a budding podcast, speaking engagements, deep involvement in church with some HUGE new projects down the pipeline that hopefully change the world. But that all would not have happened if I wouldn’t have had 3 months of Deep isolation, or donated plasma or worked at a job I was overqualified for or took that job at Duke getting paid 20k less then I made 5 years ago when I was 21.

Last week while at dinner with my Marcus Bass he asked me; “Greg what is your goal in life.? I told him simply “To Leave no Talent God has given me untapped”

Question to ask yourself? What is your Goal in Life?

Translation to Life: Please don’t live life like you have an option if you want to be great or not. It is NOT an option. Don’t operate in 3 gears when you have 6.


If you got nothing from this article, please remember this:

 Life is short. Have Fun. Be Conscious. Be Intentional. Remember you’re a Genius – Greg E. Hill

Question: What is one thing 2015 has taught you about life?

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  • Brittany

    Great post. Served a good reminder to make the most of every opportunity no matter how grim the situation may look. Find the positives and continue to grow!

    • Thanks as always for sharing and holding me down dear friend 🙂 @disqus_watHLRvKTF:disqus

  • Keisha

    I have learned to stop trying to follow my plan and let God lead me.I don’t always know what best to me. For awhile I didn’t know what I wanted to do, I felt lost. Here I was in the end of my college career. Receiving awards and honors for all my hard work and I had nothing to show for it. I applied to many jobs and always received the interview never the job. I said several times that I didn’t want to go to grad school, what more could I possibly learn I thought. Does my field even had grad school programs? My department chair kept nagging me about grad school but I would let it go in one ear out the other. Then I found myself a month after graduation at the same job I swore I’d never go back to ,but I later realized it was right where I needed to be. I felt like failure college graduate,honors student and nothing to show for it. I too was embarrassed. I kept praying for answers and God was sending me signs, and I was too stubborn to pay attention. Until one day I decided to listen. I started the application, it took me a little bit to complete but I finished. Here I was applying to one of the most elite schools for my field coming from A&T . To my surprise I got in. Then I stressed about paying for it, but again God made away. So for 2016 I will move forward letting God lead the way and I will follow without question.

    • I hope one day you realize how truly phenomenal and powerful you really are @disqus_NSr3QmUwdZ:disqus. Thanks for sharing and please meditate on the statement above.

  • Brian Oliver

    Awesome article man. I kind of went through the same exact story, but in my early thirties rather than mid twenties. I am now killing it in my career, but it is all thanks to not giving up and taking a low paying job just to get my feet wet. That job went from low paying to leading a department and now I’m on track to make more money than I ever have in my life. Don’t ever give up…work hard…believe in god…and know that your life’s mission is to do what you love. If this is it…keep doing it…you’re really good at it.

    • hey @brianoliver:disqus I appreciate you taking the time to read the article and leave a comment. I wonder how different it was adapting in your early 30’s rather then your twenties. That is freaking awesome! I appreciate the encouragement. The power of the web :). I hope you have a happy and safe new years brother! thanks again for sharing