4 Tip’s to Turn a Hopeless Year to Hopeful

Before I begin. I know it has been almost a year since I have made a blog post, Instagram post, Facebook post, etc. But! Guess what

 

 

I should have written this post three months ago. I battled for a while about how long this post would be. I almost broke it into a series but I decided to let my thoughts from the last 11 months flow into one post. I had so much to say, so many things to share, and so many things I wanted to explain. After a summer spent on the road speaking, making television appearances, being highlighted in local newspapers and magazines, and the release of my first book, I thought I had arrived. Then all of a sudden I went on an 11 month journey of silence, self-reflection, and growth.

If you have ever had a time in your life where you’re outer appearance and situation didn’t correlate to your interior, then I bet you can relate.

Over the last 11 months I have received dozens of calls, texts and Facebook messages asking the same message;

  • Where have you been? Are you Ok?
  • Why am I not getting morning messages anymore?
  • Are you still running?
  • Are you alive?

image1 (1)

I will say that your support, prayers and small gestures have meant the world to me {Special shootout to Jasmine, Jerime, Onyinyechi  (#15) , Kendrick and Julian}. I hope to once again grow and share my stories, dreams and projects with you, in hopes of encouraging you to continue growing and to always stay true to yourself.I won’t bore you into the details of the last year of my life.

Below are a few things I observed over the last year. Two funny stories and one goal I set for myself by the end of year.

Note: I will be back to blogging every Tuesday and will update you soon on the new projects I am working on.

4 Tips to Turn a Hopeless Year to Hopeful

  1. Remind yourself EVERYDAY that there are 7 Billion plus other people on earth

January 2015 through March 2015 was the most difficult stretch of my life. It’s crazy how immediately after conquering a vice, you can immediately fall back into that same vice. The culprit was that I stopped thinking of and serving others. When you are your only focus you will of course dwell on every flaw, mistake, regret etc. But when you are actively serving others you don’t have time to think about your situation. Sending out morning text messages to 100 people, making videos and posting blog entries, helped me so much and built up a store of positive energy. But taking those things away and worrying about my own situation, crippled me in more ways than I would have imagined. The age old thought of “focus on yourself” isn’t always the best route.

Key Takeaway: Feeling lonely, depressed about your situation in life, career or relationship? Go sign up to volunteer for a homeless shelter, with local kids or people with special needs. I guarantee you 100% it will help.

  1. Sometimes you have to stop reaching for the stars and acknowledge the earth

In order for me to finish my book, finish a marathon or graduate college, it took writing 500 words a day. It took me running every morning. It took going to class each and every day. But after I accomplished my goals last year I became way too engulfed in the final outcome and goals instead of the journey. So when I wasn’t seeing immediate results, I quickly became discouraged instead of noticing the small gains I was making daily. Which eventually led to me taking steps backwards.

  1. Don’t isolate yourself

Your friends and supporters are there for a reason. Not just to cheer you on when you’re doing well, but to encourage you when you’re going through something. Don’t treat them like fans. They deserve more and you deserve more. People count on you. Maybe not like the country counts on the president or how you count on your job or customers paying you for work. But your smile, your genuine conversations, the smallest thing you do could be something that means the world to someone. So keep being someone’s spark.

  1. Don’t quit your job before your side business generates income for you (For my entrepreneurs)

I left corporate America with 10k in savings having made 0$ in public speaking, selling books, or teaching seminars. That was a bad idea. In hindsight I could have done the exact same thing I was doing and kept my full time job. I thoroughly believe in following your passion but don’t put yourself in a dangerous situation by leaving too soon before you have any idea of proof that you can support yourself.

Two Funny Stories

Story 1: Hey Greg, we are better off as friends

A few months ago, I heard the words no man wants to hear from a female friend they’re interested in. “We need to talk.” We’d just had a good weekend  where I paid $105 (long story) in parking and went to a restaurant we had to make a reservation for. Note: I have never made a reservation in my life and wasn’t planning on it. So if anything I thought it would be great news. Turns out after that weekend she wanted to be friends and nothing more.


After 1 hour of frantic calls to friends explaining my situation I calmly came to my senses.

I should not have been surprised. My actions screamed “FRIEND”

  • I went Dutch first time we ate out
  • I never even asked if she was even in a relationship
  • We talked for two years without me ever mentioning I wanted more

Last time I checked that’s what friends do. But why I am sharing this story with you??

You can’t have phenomenal expectations with average effort.

Repeat: You can’t have phenomenal expectations with average effort

I expected something to blossom the way I wanted it to, without putting in the effort or intent required to make it happen.

  1. Identify one thing in your life whether it be a potential relationship, career, or side hobby that you’re trying to take to the next level
  2. Determine if your effort is indicative of what you want out of the desired thing.
  3. Then identify one thing you can do to get it there.
  4. Next, share it with a close friend to ensure accountability.

 

Story 2: Manager Story

“You need to keep your attitude in check”

When you see an email like this at work what goes through your mind?

 

I felt utterly disrespected. I have never been told anything like that from someone outside of my mother, anytime in my life. Immediately after that email was received my attitude changed. Which led to a meeting with my boss that culminated in her telling me my work ethic was average, my work attire was bland, and I was performing well under my potential.

Average | Bland | Below Potential (Those words kept whispering in my head)

For 3 days I blamed everything on my manager not understanding me, not respecting my background and taking her job too seriously. Then on the fourth day it dawned on me.

I had to get real honest with myself.  I was not bringing my A game to work. I was not dressing appropriately. I was being inconsiderate at times with the tone of my responses. And finally, I wasn’t being mature enough to see things through someone else’s perspective.

Since then I wear suits three days out of the week, am mindful about my tone with coworkers and make it my mission to smile and bring positivity to my workplace every day. Which has drastically changed my daily outlook, and dynamics of my office.

Key Takeaway: I took the emotion out of the equation and was able to utilize this situation to help me become better.

What is the last event in your life that through you for a loop. What are some things that you control that could have changed the situation? What positive takeaway can you implement from it?

1 Goal I WILL  reach before December 31st 2015:

Before this year is over I will launch my podcast and have 10 Episodes online.

Question: What is 1 goal you are trying to reach by December 30th, 2015

{Answer Below in the comments by clicking here.}

Did you enjoy this Post?
Share the Love
Get Free Updates

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • Malcolm Miller

    Love the .gifs you included here lol.
    Good tips! I definitely can relate to 2 and 3 and both of the stories. Ever since I graduated I’ve been looking big picture instead of small steps. I’ve been on cruise control for awhile but I’m in the process of adjusting and staying flexible.
    I’ve been listening to some random podcasts and me and a friend have decided to come up with one of our own. It’s gonna be more on the light-hearted side, playing off of our personalities, but I will also include topics that can provoke some thought!
    Great to see you back! Always looking forward to more.

    • Always brother. Looking forward to hearing more updates on your podcast.

  • Winnie Quick

    It really is great to have you back, Greg! Those inspirational quotes you’ve started back sending to us had led me to finding my own daily quotes until you were able to pick things back up. Now that you have learned all of those difficult lessons, just remember that one definition of insanity is expecting different results from the same actions.

    Rest assured, we will be here to help you put those lessons into practice. As always, thank you for being the light just by being yourself. I am extremely proud of you, brother.

    • The wonderful Winnie Quick who always speaks so eloquently and mature far beyond her age.

      Thank you for your comment, perspective, and ongoing support over the last few years. The best is yet to come 🙂

  • Justin Sexton

    Man, I feel sorry for your “Friend” story. I went through a similar thing until last night where I actually shot the shot and didn’t get blocked! She was shy like me too, and I’m a confident guy she said and I am! It’s just to girls where I’m shy at. We both wanted each other and things is looking up. I Really needed this due to my tough times this month Greg. I still hold out day together as a fun experience and a meaningful one. I can’t wait to meet up again!

    • That’s amazing. Your confidence is inspiring. And it’s all good bro I needed that to happen to me in order to grow.

      And remember to stay positive and understand that this may your season of temporary struggle, but embrace it. Smile and get through it.

      No doubt little bro. I will definitely see you before years end or at the latest in January.

  • Tyree Hearn

    My brother this is very encourage not only for me but for other as well. I can definitely relate to this and this show me that we can change somebody life even it just a small little things. Just keep letting God use you brother I got your back..we all behind you brother love you man.

    • Love you to man. You are one of the most encouraging young brothers I know. Keep striving .1% better each and every day.

  • Cierra

    Love you Greg!!!!! My goal is to get started on this photography thing! I’m actually sitting on the couch, camera in hand, tutorials on screen! I literally paused my tutorial to read the blog lol! So happy you’re back!!

    • @cierra Thankyou so much for your support. And I love your goal.

      Question What does getting started really mean for you? Example: Does it mean booking a client? Or just having your first shoot for somebody? Cause clarity will allow you to dig that much deeper into goal.

  • Keisha

    Greg I think its great that you are very transparent with you personal stories. It really helps people connect with what you are trying to convey. Also just glad to see back doing what you well! I enjoyed reading this and cant wait to listen to your podcasts when you launch them. Continue to be a light for others as you have been In the past! As far as my goals for by the end of December are getting a car and secure scholarships/funding to cover my remaining school costs.

    • Thanks @keisha for reading and I am excited to share the work I have been holding on to. I appreciate your feedback.

      Those are some big goals! But definetly doable. Have you wrote out a plan on how you can accomplish them & most importantly who could help you accomplish them?

      • Keisha

        I’ve been saving for the Car and as far as school, I’ve been apply for scholarships and looking for grants.

  • Rin

    absolutely love this. great read! growth year 🙂 can’t wait to see where you go <3

  • Pashara Black

    Great post Greg. You have the ability to change the world if you keep the focus! Always remember that. My goal by the end of 2015 is to feel confident that I am giving 100% in every aspect of my life.

    • Thanks for the encouragement and leaving a comment @@pasharablack:disqus .

      Question for you: How will you know if you are giving 100% in every facet of your life?

      • Pashara Black

        Because when I lay down at night. I will be confident that I did everything I possibly could while I was awake to move closer to my goals.

        Failures will occur, but I don’t ever want to bring a failure upon myself because I did not give my best effort.

  • Kam E

    The job story was reallyyy funny .. I can just imagine you reading that e-mail. Sometimes those harsh realities puts everything back into perspective, though; I’m grateful that it was so, in your case.. Also, glad to see you’re back posting your blogs along with the podcast! (whoot whoot;) * does Mase shuffle

    • It is always needed in order to grow and get better. Thankyou for reading and beiong a phenominal young queen. I cant wait to share more post. And the podcast 🙂 @disqus_bn5jnCvC0v:disqus

  • Kiara Shardé

    great post and thanks for the inspirational morning posts!

    • Already my love. You were one of my first inspirations and put me on to so many different ways of subtlety in music, art, clothing. #INeverForget @kiarashard:disqus

  • Tracy King

    Great Post! Life is truly about living and learning from any situation, good or bad. Like myself, I am sure many people can relate to some of the experiences you shared with us. Your advice is appreciated and I am happy that you have been able to bounce back and inspire others during the process. The future is brighter than ever, keep it up!

    1 Goal to reach before 12/31/2015….

    Have my job converted to a FTE
    Start a new book

    • Thanks Ms. King reporting all the way from Oak City. And I love the goals! Are you about to write a book or read a new book? @disqus_MNx9oJaiPq:disqus

  • Lydia T. Blanco

    God has blessed you with transparency so that you may be a blessing to others. I’m glad to know that all is well and that you’re living (literally) and learning. Keep pushing and inspiring along the way. Looking forward to more posts.

    • As always @lydiatblanco:disqus . So encouraging and well spoken. We must catch up soon. And thanks for reading. I look forward to sharing more post with you 🙂

  • Bro, this is the comeback story of all time! I am so incredibly proud of you, and humbled by your words.

    My goal for the rest of the year: Resurrection my website.

    • I appreciate that my brother from another @quinntonharris:disqus. I am looking forward to the resurrection of your site. The world needs you to be you. Keeps people like me going refreshed and inspired.

    • And I have succeeded 🙂

  • Kirtisha

    Blown away. Thank you for you introspection and transparency. The written word is extremely dynamic. My goals….wow. I feel like this is a question I have been running from for years. I know my passion is education and uplifting in whatever way possible, however, how can I fully fulfill my greatest potential on my own terms….my goal is to be accountable to myself and my greatest potential. To self reflect and take action. Every day is a new opportunity to take a step in the right direction. #LiveLifeONPurpose
    Agape.

  • Jerime Alston

    Great blog post G.Hill! Your candidness is always appreciated I know your words will touch the masses and promote growth one person at time. I was definitely able to take away a few points. Keep up the great work brother.

    Goal to Reach by Dec. 31, 2015: 1.) To put together an action plan to be more active in youth development. 2.) draft business plans for work related activities.

  • Tiffany Carson

    I had to forgive you for your selfish & insensitive ways, but I’m glad you’re doing well. Best of luck in all future endeavors & Better karma next year!